Everyday Heroes….by Nancy Brophy
Posted by SeeJanePublish
In my life God always has the last laugh. Just at the point where I think I know where I’m going and how I’m going to get there, I get a curve ball.
I write the alpha hero with a body built by hard work, sweat and determination. Old enough to have experience life, his choices are based upon his core beliefs. In a nutshell, he’s mid-to-late thirties, attractive, but not a pretty boy and usually he’s the one who thinks he’s in charge.
Apparently I didn’t know enough about this guy because suddenly I’m working with three men who in real life would qualify. Knowing these men as opposed to creating them out of my imagination has given me pause.
I’m not attracted to them. Yeah, they have great bodies and are truly nice men but they are young. When I write this guy I write from the eyes of a young woman. In real life there is an ick factor in age difference and life experiences I can’t overcome.
I’m not sure I’ve ever worked around truly competitive men. These guys all played sports, but that isn’t the determining factor. Over my life I’ve known several men who have played sports some even professionally and yet their drive was nothing in comparison.
I’ve always prided myself on being a hard worker, but just being around these men has upped my game. Who knew this would happen at a time when many of friends are more involved with retirement than starting a new career? There is never a point in your life when you stop discovering who you are.
One of the men I know better than the others. As I watch him make choices in his life I am surprised and impressed by his decisions. The man is a single father who takes his 50% custody seriously – so seriously that when he wins a trip through work, he chooses his eleven-year-old daughter over the girlfriend du jour.
Recently the child’s mother moved to another town about forty-five minutes away. She didn’t do this out of spite, but rather love. My friend celebrated her happiness. How many of us have wished for our ex’s joy? I’m not sure that I’m that nice. With her move, he decided that in order for his daughter to be most stable he also needed to follow her to the new city in another state.
For him this is a major decision. This man hates change. So selling his house and relocating is a sacrifice that definitely takes him out of his comfort zone. Many of us would chose a different decision and not be wrong. For him good parenting is his number one priority – even above his need to succeed.
But here’s the other thing I have discovered, I suspect he would be a better father than a husband. While he’d be faithful and support the family it would take a special woman to deal with his rather rigid life-style.
Now as writers I know you are thinking, “Great. You have a role model, write him.”
But I can’t. In order for me to write a man falling in love, I would have to think about the physical aspects of that relationship and I can’t do it. See the previously mentioned ick factor.
But there is a lesson to be learned here. I’m just not sure what it is. But I can see how future stories may change and be stronger as a result. And in the background I can hear God chuckling away.
Life is never staid or finished. It is always changing and reshaping itself and us with it. The ability to be a hero is in everyone, but not everyone looks the part.
Have you encountered your stories’ characters in your life? Tell me about it.