It’s Gettin’ Hot in Here, So Take Off All Your Clothes: How I Like My Sex by Gina Fluharty

WARNING—This isn’t a G-rated post. Please refrain from continuing if you are easily offended. And if you’re offended at the conclusion—you were warned so shut up.

It’s February: The season of love and romance. Or as some may think of it: the Oh-shit-what-am-I-gonna-get-my-girl month. No matter the position—top or bottom—hopefully everyone gets what they want/need this month. Which brings me to an intriguing point in terms of why I read what I read and what I seek out in a novel: Sweet or Spicy? Now, keep in mind that—as always—I make no judgments. Some like it hot. Some like it sweet. And however you like your meat, baby, I just hope you get it.

As for me? I not only read hot, I write hot. For me, the success of a love scene depends on whether or not I wanna throw down and go get me some at the conclusion of it. I like it explicit. Not clinical—I save that for the gynecologist. And not flowery—that’s for love poetry. I want the author to make me feel what that character is going through. I need to experience—transcend my own existence at the moment, if you will—what the character feels. I want that shivery sensation tracking from the base of my brain all the way down my spine until it wraps around my tailbone, arrows through my tenders and sends me straight through the stratosphere. I need the scent of spiced whiskey in my lungs, the hot sweep of a tongue along the side of my neck. Strong white teeth nibbling a trail to my breasts until they close around the aching peak of my nipple and bite—that—much—harder—until I beg for more. A firm callused hand kneading the flesh of my ghetto booty, priming it before giving it a swift and sure smack that rips my attention away from the glory happening above and focuses my attention on the quivering slice of…

But I forget myself. As I usually do. And that’s the whole fucking point, dear reader. No matter how you like it, the writer’s sole purpose is to transport you into another realm, a separate world, a completely different reference of being. And if that doesn’t happen, you either haven’t found your niche as a reader or you’re not delving deep enough as an author.

Go forth. Make some magic happen. In my opinion, as long as everyone wins, it’s golden.

Now that I’ve had my metaphorical cigarette, how do you like yours?


About Gina Fluharty

Author of paranormal romance. Like chocolate, I like the darker side of love. It's okay, you can hold my hand as I walk you into the heart of darkness in order to show you the light inside. It's time to embrace the beast within.

Posted on February 6, 2014, in General and tagged , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 9 Comments.

  1. Holy Moly. Based on this post, I have high expectations for your “hot” romance career!


  2. ***fanning myself*** ***deep breath***

    I think you are right on point with a sex scene only works if a reader is connected to what’s going down (or up) on the page. I read all levels, but a sex scene only works for me if the couple (or more) in the book are connected on an emotional level. I don’t need them to be declaring their everlasting love for each other, but I *do* need them to respond to each other on a more than just physical level.


    • Absolutely! Because I like it hot and my H/H don’t fall in love at first sight, I use the sex scenes to show the primal nature first–slaking a need. As they evolve, the sex becomes more about the emotions and less about biological drive.


  3. I agree that during and after writing a sex scene you should be hot and bothered and looking for your partner or spouse. As a reader, I like a range of romances–from sweet, with sexual tension, to books that are hot, but not too hot. There is a point at which I really don’t want to know every detail. I’m more interested in the emotional elements of sex rather than the pure hormonal responses.

    I must admit a certain tiredness in reading the sex scenes in most romances. It may be that what was hot to the writer isn’t to me,or a feeling of: “Not that again.” (whatever the latest trend in position or place to have sex). But most often, I think it is a feeling that the sex scene was put into the story at that point in the book purely to titillate, not to change the character arc in any way. I believe that sex very much changes the romantic relationship–for good or bad. Every time it happens in a new relationship it enhances or detracts from that relationship and the ability for the characters to move forward toward their happily ever after. If the writer doesn’t include that, in a deeply emotional way, then it is meaningless for the story and thus to me.


  4. My God, you write hot well, Gina! So here’s my problem, I can go deep and ” transport” in some areas, like internalization… but just not others, like sex scenes. Suggestions?


  5. I…um…need a few moments to “collect my thoughts” after that post. *melts*


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