Real Life Romance by Jessica Ruddick
Note from Åsa: Our guest today is Young Adult and Romance author Jessica Ruddick. I first met Jessica when we were both 2014 Golden Heart finalist. She is as smart as she is pretty, and super fun. We both just got back from the Sun in the Fun conference that takes place on a cruise. Jessica’s husband traveled with her and I can attest to him being swoon-worthy. 😉
Here’s Jessica’s take on love in the real world.
Wouldn’t life be nice if it were like a Nicholas Sparks novel or movie? (Minus all the people dying, of course.) The passion, the emotion, the romance.
I recently ran across a video (courtesy of Cosmopolitan Magazine) that has male models saying the most romantic lines ever written in the most romantic location imaginable—in front of a roaring fire.
Was it all you hoped it would be and more?
To tell you the truth, I was kind of skeezed out by the whole thing. At times it’s downright creepy. Because here’s the thing—real life romance often looks very different than it does in the movies. And even though I’m a romance author, I’ll admit it—real life romance is often very different than the romance found in novels.
I’ve been married ten years, and my idea of romance is different than it was fifteen years ago. Don’t get me wrong—surprise flowers are still nice, but I’d prefer my husband took the time to fold a load of laundry. Think about it—in the amount of time it would take him to drive to Wal-Mart for the flowers, he could fold one, maybe two loads of laundry.
Sounds kinda lame, doesn’t it? It might be lame, but it’s real.
Romance novels are great because they provide an escape from everyday life. I need that escape; I crave that escape. Sometimes that escape is the only glue keeping me and my sanity together. But that doesn’t mean what’s in those books is always realistic. I’ve read my fair share of romance novels, and from the best I can recall, there wasn’t a single load of laundry in any of them. So who’s doing it? I know the hero and heroine aren’t walking around in dirty underwear.
Real life romance is finding a partner who will battle life’s obstacles with you, whether that obstacle is getting through a child’s emergency eye surgery or making sure the mortgage gets paid every month or yes—even wading through those mountains of dirty laundry. Those are the things real life is made of.
So Cosmo can keep their roaring fire. Give me a man who will be my partner in life, and I’ll swoon every time.
Books have been part of my life for as long as I can remember. I have fond memories of spending Sunday afternoons at the library and leaving with a bag full of books. The written word has had such a positive impact in my life, and I hope my writing can affect readers the same way.
I earned my B.A. in English from Virginia Tech and loved academia so much I went on to earn my M.A. in English literature. It was during my graduate program that I started teaching college freshman and my career path was set. I now teach high school English and the occasional college course in Southeastern Virginia where I live with my husband and two sons.
I write young adult, new adult, and romance fiction. I am a member of several chapters of RWA®, including Virginia Romance Writers, Contemporary Romance Writers, and the Golden Network. I currently serve as secretary for YARWA, the young adult chapter of RWA. My new adult manuscript, LETTING GO, is a 2014 Golden Heart® finalist. My young adult novel, BIRTHRIGHT, is the winner of the 2014 Maggie award and the 2014 Put Your Heart in a Book contest.
I am represented by Sarah E. Younger of the Nancy Yost Literary Agency.
Posted on February 17, 2015, in Auth: Asa Maria Bradley, Auth: Special Guest, Real-Life Romance and tagged Cosmopolitan Magazine, Jessica Ruddick, letting go, Real-Life Romance. Bookmark the permalink. 34 Comments.