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Like an idiot, I bought the dress without the party invitation

Every year, I make variations of the same three resolutions; lose weight, get out of debt, and write an entire book. Every year, I wonder why I fail:
…I have tried positive reinforcement (The RWA Conference is in NYC this year!)
…I have tried negative reinforcement (Where’s a quarter jar?)
…I have made goals with vague outcomes (Write Anything!)
…I have had goals with measurable results (Write 500 words a day)

Like with all the crazy diets out there, I have tried them all. One of my favorite spins on resolutions was the year of visualization. A lot of life coaches, especially connected to sport athletes, spoke of the importance to image your success. The point was to see yourself getting from this spot to the point of success. The part that hooked me was that they encouraged visual aids. Yippy!

As a new writer, I believed success and status came to those who won the RWA Golden Heart contest. The dream seemed a bit more attainable since I actually know some of the finalists and previous year winners like our very own “Jane” Asa Bradley. But instead of investing in more writing courses, giving up TV time to write more in the day or doing anything that would actually assist me in getting words on the page, I went shopping and bought a dress, which I couldn’t afford and can’t fit into, to wear to the RWA awards banquet.

dressIsn’t it beautiful? I hung it against my door as my visual aid for the rest of the year. Then the following January happened, without the completion of the book, so the dress was bitterly shoved to the back of the closest, never to be revisited until I wrote this blog. But as a silver lining, due to this post, this dress finally served as a reason for getting actual words written on the page.

So what is this year’s trend for New Year’s Resolutions? I believe we have reduced it to its bare essentials by eliminating full thoughts and details and replacing it with the pursuit of a single word. The idea is to pick one word that encompasses your resolutions; love, money, happiness, freedom, etc. If nothing else, it should eliminate feelings of failure because it’s your definition of your single word so you decide if you accomplished your goal or not.

Want to give it a try? What is your New Year’s Resolution word?

Mine is PURPOSE.

I would walk 500 miles; Lenora flew 7,000 miles for the Golden Heart

The RWA Golden Heart contest is the award that all new authors covet and daydream about winning when they should actually be writing. Some of us might have even bought a dress that they would wear for the day they win the award (It’s a gold floor length gown and it will go fabulous with my Golden Heart). Our own Mary Oldham was nominated in 2012 and Asa Maria Bradley was a finalist this year for her novel, Valhalla’s King. But my friend, Lenora Bell, traveled all the way from Bolivia to accept her 2014 Golden Heart award. To join in her celebration, let me share her story.

Lenora Bell writes fun, sensual Regency-set romance novels that feature strong, sexy heroes who can only be reformed by the most extraordinary heroines.LenoraBellAuthorPhoto Past careers include sultry lounge singer, vintage store owner, and, far less romantically, salmon cannery grunt. Lenora has lived and worked on five continents and currently shares a home in Bolivia with her carpenter husband, cranky twenty-one-year-old cat, and precarious piles of books.

What story did you submit to the Golden Heart?

My Regency-set historical romance manuscript CHARLENE AND THE DUCHESS FACTORY. It’s Charlie and the Chocolate Factory meets The Bachelor. It’s part of a three book series and the next two books are inspired by Alice in Wonderland and The Wizard of Oz.

When did you complete this story and has it been submitted/won any other contests?

I thought of the title for CHARLENE AND THE DUCHESS FACTORY before I started writing. It just popped into my head one day in a used bookstore that had no romance section (I know, WTF!). I was thumbing through Charlie and the Chocolate Factory and I thought, hmm…this is kind of like a romance novel plot–a rich, successful, powerful guy who needs an heir to his empire.

I started the book then set it aside to write a different project. I came back to it a few months before the Golden Heart entries were due, polished the first fifty pages, and whipped the rest into a semblance of order. I’ve never entered it in any other contests, and this was the first time I entered the Golden Heart.

What were you doing when you found out that you were a finalist?

I don’t think anyone ever forgets exactly what they were doing when they received the Golden Heart call. I live overseas in Bolivia, so I knew the stateside phone number I submitted wouldn’t work. I kept obsessively refreshing my email to see if there was anything from RWA. I was also lurking on the Ruby-Slippered Sisterhood site because they were blogging about the Golden Heart finalists all day. I heart the Rubies!

When I received the email from RWA asking for an alternate phone number because they couldn’t get in touch with me, my pulse started racing. I’m pretty sure at some point my boss asked me to track down a document and all I did was grunt. Nothing, and no one, was going to separate me from my landline phone. Because it was going to ring. Any moment.

It rang. The RWA angels sang. And life hasn’t been the same since.

How far did you travel from to attend the ceremony? Why was it important to you to attend in person?

I actually traveled all the way from Bolivia to attend the RWA Conference. But I was lucky because one of my best friends planned her wedding in Alaska the week before the conference. So I could justify the writing conference because of the wedding. Romance all around!

I really wanted to be there in person because I had a Golden Heart nominated manuscript to pitch, and I wanted to catch up with all of my amazing writer friends. I met Tessa Dare and Courtney Milan back in 2006 during the Avon Fan Lit contest, and we became friends and critique partners. They are my inspiration!

How are the Golden Heart finalists treated at the RWA Conference?

Being a Golden Heart finalist has lots of perks, including a pretty golden heart pin and silk ribbon to place on your conference badge, the chance to attend The Golden Network’s retreat the day before the conference starts (totally worth it!), and VIP seating for the awards ceremony. You also have the exciting opportunity to mingle with all the fantastic RITA finalists. There’s one more huge perk and that’s the built in community you find with the other finalists. This year’s group, The Dream Weavers, is full of such talent and passion.

Tell us about the Awards Ceremony?

Lenora with Tessa Dare and Courtney Milan at the 2014 Golden Heart Awards

Lenora with Tessa Dare and Courtney Milan at the 2014 Golden Heart Awards

The Awards Ceremony is very glamorous. I really felt like I should have found a dress with more sequins because everyone was so sparkly. YA author Simone Elkeles was the emcee and she did a fabulous job making us all laugh, cry, and sing along to Journey.

They announce the winners of the Golden Heart first, and then the RITAs. When my photo showed up on screen, I sat there, stunned, for fully five seconds. I never lost that dazed, is-this-really-happening-to-me expression the entire night. I just couldn’t believe it.

In my acceptance speech I gave Eloisa James a shout-out for being my gateway drug into mainstream romance. After my speech, she came up and had her photo taken with me and said it was a thrill for her. For her? Oh my sweet lord. That entire evening was the craziest, most exciting joy ride of my life.

What is it about the Golden Heart that is so special?

RWA’s Golden Heart contest is an unparalleled opportunity for unpublished romance writers. There are no guarantees of success in this business, but having that Golden Heart final at the beginning of your pitch ensures that your submission will at least float to the top of the slush heap. And winning the contest is a big part of the reason I found my amazing agent, Alexandra Machinist with ICM Partners.

Wait, what? I have an agent? I still can’t believe that this is my life right now. Thank you, RWA!

What are your plans for the future?

Finish revisions on CHARLENE AND THE DUCHESS FACTORY, send to my agent, and cross my fingers, eyes, toes that an editor falls in love with Liam and Charlene’s story!



Thank you for allowing me to share Lenora’s story with you. Do you feel like you know her well enough to play Two truths and a lie? Take a guess and the answer will be revealed tomorrow.

  1. Lenora got married in Bangkok.
  2. Lenora has never read Fifty Shades of Gray.
  3. Ethan Hawke came backstage to say hi to Lenora after she was the lead in her high school musical.



We’re All Liars Here by Gina Fluharty

Tomorrow we—as a nation—will celebrate ultimate victory. We’ll blow shit up in honor of the birth of a free nation. Tyranny’s defeat. The start of a despotic campaign to subjugate a native population under the guise of progress and freedom. But do we Janes want to talk about that? Hell no. We’d rather talk about pain and misfortune, aka REJECTION.

I’d love to tell you that I handle rejection with grace and aplomb but most of you already know I’m a big, fat, hairy liar who gives Pinocchio a long, hard run for good money. So for the sake of you, my dearest reader, I’ll stick with truth—straight-up bourbon-infused truth.

Rejection sucks wind harder than a one-nostriled asthmatic marathoner with emphysema. Rejection blows worse than a cheap hooker with rusty braces. Rejection feasts on the precious pearls of love and wisdom that drip from our curled…well, you get the picture.

It hurts. I used to think sad panda was just a cute emoji but I’ve discovered it’s an actual and factual emotion. Sad panda sucks sweaty jock ass. But after sad panda abates—with the love and encouragement of excellent friends and copious amounts of booze—it’s time to read WHY rejection happened.

I’ve been rejected a few times now and only once did I shout, “Alright!” and fist pump the heavens. That first rejection meant I could go PRO in RWA and it’s the only rejection that felt good. I highly recommend it to all of our new chapter members. If the pin was better, I’d demand they go PRO just to sport it.

But I digress. I’ve been rejected by three publishers in various ways. Silence was my least favorite. They even said in the confirmation e-mail that no news was the news if they didn’t like it. The second house was via a form letter—professional but gave no clue as to why. But my third—and the publisher I am fixated on—gave me feedback. Actual someone-took-the-time-to-tell-me-there-were-issues letters. I LOVE those letters. They give me hope. They tell me if I’d like to address said issues and rewrite the book, I can RESUBMIT! Holy crap, honest-to-goodness HOPE wells in me when I read those words. And it keeps my ass in the chair and my fingers on the keyboard.

So to sum up, rejection is no one’s end game but it is a big part of the game. A long con instead of a quick shell game, if you will. Keep writing, finish books, submit to agents or editors and repeat. Over and over until finally, CONTRACT.

And now it’s time to share: Tell me either your worst rejection or your funniest.

A New Paradigm… by Nancy Brophy

I am always fascinated by the dichotomy of my local RWA chapter members. One would imagine that published or not, a writer’s main focus would be writing. For some that is true. But everyone comes with their own agenda and writing is not necessarily number one. This is a mixed blessing.

RWA runs on volunteers who help at the expense of their writing time. Sometimes that is purposeful. But many – like me – simply raised a hand at the wrong moment. And while my mouth is saying, “Yes, I’d be happy to.” My brain is screaming, “Are you an idiot? You don’t have any free time?”

Lots of RWA members talk about writing more than they actually sit in a chair and put words on paper. I used to be disdainful. I was wrong. My tunnel vision didn’t let me see opportunities that others saw. Our chapter now includes agents, editors, graphic artists who do cover designs, copy editors, many of whom started out as writers. Many of whom still find time to write.

I love the line in RWA’s membership requirements that says (I’m paraphrasing) you must be purpose driven to write romance. Yeah, right. Without the people who operate on the fringes it wouldn’t be the well-rounded organization it has become. Let’s face it even the girls scouts do more than sell cookies.

Which brings me to the real purpose of this week’s blog – my friend, Lynn Jordan. Lynn writes, but that’s not her main focus.


Lynn is social media savvy and has a website called Authors Tool Blog where she teaches courses and offers materials on increasing your Internet market share. It is simple and easy to use which is important info to the techno challenged among us. Like me.

But recently she’s started a new site called I Love Romance Books.  If you follow this on Facebook, every day Lynn posts several romance books that are either free or on sale. As a result I have read a lot of Indie published authors that I might not have noticed.

As won’t surprise you, she includes the good, bad and occasionally the ugly. She includes comments on what reviewers have said and posts a large enough variety that I can skip those genres I don’t particularly enjoy. I know this is bad to admit, but I’m really tired of vampires. (Sorry to all my friends who write paranormal).

I now have enough books on Kindle that I’ve started sorting them the same way I did with paperbacks. There is a keeper shelf. A DNF (did not finish) shelf and a good – would read more of that author shelf. But the unexpected benefit is that it makes me aware of author’s names which is one of the chief ways people actually choose who they read.

I think Lynn’s idea is brilliant. She, more than almost anyone I know, is promoting romance writers and I suspect is not making any money from her endeavor which would have many of us say why  bother? It is people like Lynn who are figuring out how to maneuver in the new era of publishing.

You go, girl.

Pitching at Nationals by Cassiel Knight

I wrote this for the PRO Bootcamp on all things RWA Nationals coming up at the end of July in Anaheim. Are you going? This will be my last one for a while so I’m going to make the most of it. Anyway, I thought I’d share the post I wrote about pitching at Nationals. And while the focus is Nationals, much of the pitching advice is the same anywhere. 

While pitching is stressful overall, pitching at Nationals is easily the most feared. And why wouldn’t it be? You are in a huge room filled with agents and editors, your future ’employers’, and are surrounded by your competition. With over 100 in the room at one time, the large room is loud and full of distractions.

Not a very positive way to start off a post is it?

But don’t worry. It is nerve-wracking to pitch at Nationals–I’m not going to lie to you and say it’s a piece of cake. For some it is. For others, the stomach starts turning and doesn’t stop even after you’ve walked away from the tables.

As a veteran pitcher and volunteer at the agent/editor pitch sessions, I’m here to teach you the things you can do to make it less stressful. I encourage those of you who have pitched at Nationals to come for and share your experiences and tips since we all have different ways of approaching these.

To start, let me tell you a little about what you can expect.

For the room and set up, both are often different from conference to conference. It usually means a large room for pitching and some kind of holding area. The holding area can be a separate room like it was last year, or in the same huge area like it was the year before.

Anyway, while the set-up is different, the process is the same. The agents and editors are seated at small tables in rows throughout the room. They are usually scheduled for their times in alphabetical order by first name or last name (that keeps changing but you’ll know when you get there . For example, there may be five rows with six agents and editors in each row.

When you arrive, on time! and at least 10 minutes before your session, you’ll check in and be directed to a holding area with others pitching at the same time and in the same row.

At some point, usually about 3-5 minutes before your time, you’ll be lined up based on your time and row. For example, your row contains five agents/editors: Elizabeth, Joe, John, Mary, Laura. Your pitch is to Mary. You’ll be lined up in the fourth row.

When time is called for the people before you, you’ll be directed to start walking to your row. Follow the instructions and you’ll find Mary. Then it’s time to sit down and do your thing.

At the end of the session, you’ll leave and at this point, you can go see if you can get in another pitch with someone else or come back at another time and the process starts again, or you can leave and enjoy the rest of the conference.

Sounds pretty easy doesn’t it? It is. Just pay attention to the instructions–the RWA office staff in charge of this portion of Nationals has also done this for years.

Here are some tips and insights I’ve gathered from these three years of Nationals observing conference attendees and talking to the agents and editors.

* Wear comfortable clothes. If that is dressing up for you, go for it. Whatever makes you comfortable. If it’s jeans, do it. There are a lot of schools of thought on this but from what I see, as long as you are neat, clean and presentable, it doesn’t matter if you were are in a suit, dress or jeans. When you are comfortable, that will shine through. That’s what is important.

* Be on time! I noted this above. Seriously, be on time. I know there are a lot of things going on at Nationals. I get it. Everyone gets it. It’s not an excuse and it will NOT save your appointment time. I understand and appreciate that you may have to give up something you want to do to make your appointment. I say it’s your job. Just like (I hope) you wouldn’t be late to job interview, your wedding or the birth of your child <grin>, don’t be late for your pitch appointment.

What’s the worst that can happen? You won’t get your chance in front of the agent/editor you’re dying to see that just might want you and your story. Someone could pop on here and say that they missed their appointment but were still able to meet the agent/editor. That’s great. But why take the chance?  I can’t stress this enough. If you are late, you will lose your spot.  The staff works hard to ensure it goes off smoothly–if you aren’t there, someone else gets your slot. Don’t do that to yourself; be on time.

* While you are in the holding area, be mindful of the noise volume. Even though, most often, the waiting room is separate from the main area, it can get very loud. When you are sitting in front of your E/A, the last thing you want is to be distracted by the talking and laughing from the waiting room. Keep that in mind when you are waiting. I’m not saying be silent; I’m saying moderation.

* Don’t forget to smile and introduce yourself when you sit down with the E/A. It makes everything seem more human and is a good way to establish rapport. Others may disagree with me on this but don’t hand them your business card right away. What if they don’t ask for material? Just wait until the end. Another thing, and I believe it was mentioned earlier, there are two things to make your business card stand out for the E/A: 1) Blank backside or, instead of that, 2) your story’s  tagline on the back. I’ve heard from several E/As that they like to either jot notes on the blank side to jog their memories of enticing pitches or your tagline will do the same thing.

Oh, and a note on bringing material. Sigh. I’ve seen and heard it done successfully but in 90% of the cases, don’t bring or hand them material. If you feel you must, have it with you and if they ask, only then, hand it out. More times than not, they aren’t going to ask. They don’t need the paper. I know Nationals, at New York, was different last year and some asked for material on site. But they were local. Most of them aren’t going to be this year. And the good thing about email, is you can simply email the material later. I did that last year. I met, informally, with an agent and she asked for my full. Obviously, I didn’t have it with me, but I emailed it to her when I got back to my room. The same thing can hold true for a requested partial.

* Keep your actual pitch short. You get 10 minutes but don’t fill it up with the pitch. Give the E/A plenty of time to ask questions, at least three minutes. Who knows? With that extra time, your answer may be what they use to ask for more. And you want to leave time for that too. Because there are a bunch of us whose job is to boot pitchers from their seats and I hate to do that. So, be respectful of the person coming behind you and leave plenty of time for you to get those all important request instructions.

On another note, I know it’s tempting to rattle on and on about your book trying to pack in as much story as you can but resist doing that. Even if the E/A is silent and you are nervous. It’s a well-known technique that interviewers use that if they are silent long enough, the interviewees will ultimately say something that will rule them out. Now, I’m not saying that the E/As do that. But don’t leave yourself open for that to happen. I’ve seen it. It’s sad.

* Practice your pitch as much as you can so it sounds smooth but don’t fret if you find yourself having to read from your cards. Try not to, but don’t worry if you have to. I’ve heard from E/As on both sides–some think it means you don’t know your story well enough while others understand you are nervous so they are okay with you reading. If you keep your pitch short and concise, you should be able to memorize it enough. Keep your cards available in case your nervousness gets to be too much.

* This is a big one and believe me, the E/As see this happening. It’s not always possible to, by the time you signed up, get the E/A you really wanted (hooray for you if you did). Hopefully, you’ve done your research and gotten someone else who might be a fit. You will get an opportunity to find open slots with other E/As. Be smart about it and don’t just pitch to any E/A that’s on the list. As I said, I’ve volunteered extensively at Nationals the last few years and I’ve seen those who flit from E/A to E/A with no apparent method to this madness. I noticed it. And believe me, the E/As do. Not in a good way, either. To them, it means you haven’t taken the time to make sure you are pitching your story to the one who it fits best. Sure, sometimes it isn’t always easy to know but do the best you can. Take those extra pitches but take them smartly. Don’t throw pasta against the wall and hope it sticks.

Pitching is done. Now what? Short and sweet. Take a deep breath, pat yourself on the back or seek your friends to do that for you, and above all, if you get a request SEND IT IN! Yes, I put this in all caps for a reason.

A variety of E/As tell me that over 80% of their requests they never see. Never. And another 10% could come in a year later. Their manners dictate they will go ahead and take a look at it but the likelihood that they still want it is slim. I’m not saying it doesn’t happen but it is rare. So, send it in. Take time to polish it but send it in at least three months of Nationals.

Hope you’ve found this useful. If you have questions about anything I’ve missed, don’t hesitate to post a question.


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